|Be Aware of Strongholds. Snip them Out of Your Life!|
If you impulsively tend to think in black or white, that is, believe something has to be either right or wrong; a person is either likable or unlikeable; ask yourself if there might be a stronghold tied around your neck yanking you around like a dog on a leash.
A stronghold is a fortress of faulty thinking that keeps you from God's best.
Spiritually speaking, it isn't a human holding the other end of the leash in this case, it is a demon. The demon is intent on causing trouble and getting a person off-course. Demons hate God and are in warfare with humans!
If you suspect you have a stronghold of this nature, stop reacting, and turn to the Truth for clarity: God and his word are the Truth.
Questions that begin with What if anticipate problems. Anticipating danger is important, but a lot of what ifs never happen. This type of thinking can lead to unnecessary worry, anxiety, self-sabotage and blockage. This type of thinking can be used by the evil one to stop you from moving forward in your calling.
Statements that use the word Should are control statements. Well-meaning friends often start sentences with it, "You should do this or that..." When they do, we often recoil. Most of us don't want anyone telling us what to do.
More often than not, we put "I shoulds" on ourselves too. Doing so implies we aren't doing something that we should be doing, and therefore we are putting false guilt on ourselves.
Instead of getting caught in a should trap, say, "I could, I want to, Maybe I'll..." and so on. The choice is ours.
We only need to ask God what it is he wants us to do. He pricks our conscience, but he doesn't lay guilt. He helps us accomplish what he wants us to do. He leads us and stops us. He doesn't beat us for not doing something.