Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Finding Your Thing: First Identify Your HUM

Are you a Natural Organizer?
A Writer?
A Decorator?
A Musician?

There are zillions of life coaching tools available for free online.  Most life coaches tend to use the same types of tools to help a woman define herself.  If you've not come across some of these tools yet, I'd like to offer you a bit of a grid.

I can tell you, however,  trying to find your ultimate life purpose can drive you nuts.  It all depends on who's definition you hear, what you try, and how successful your trials become. 

If you look at someone like Joseph or Moses in the Bible you will rest assured that a person's life can take a variety of twists and turns. Yours may too. Never put the Holy Spirit's leading into a box.

So let's start building your grid by looking at what you are naturally good at.  For the sake of shaking things up, I'll call this your HUM.  


You can hear bees hum when they fly by.  When things in the kitchen are progressing well you might say, "Things are humming".    My idea of a woman's hum is what resonates from her when she is in her "zone", doing what God created her to do.  It is who she is naturally.  

In this context your HUM is:  Your Humanly Unique Makeup.   


When listing the things you're naturally good at think about what people count on you for, what you are complimented on, what others have said you're good at, and what you know you're good at or find easy to do.  

One person may find skiing easy, another finds writing easy, another is naturally good at empathy, one creates online tools simply, another is a natural with children.  

Where we fall into a trap is assuming everyone else HUMS the same as we do.  It is often those things that come easily to us that we can't see.

When finding your HUM, dig deep.  Find the HUM that sets you apart.  

Narrow your list to a few good selections.

As an example, here is my HUM -- things I do easily or that I've been complimented on:

Typing; reading situations and offering clarity or counsel; writing; inexpensive decorating; organizing; works of art, gardening, an appreciation for the outdoors.


A HUM usually naturally releases itself.  A HUM looks for release. WHEN I RELEASE my HUM, my giftedness shows.  In the best situations, my HUM is affirmed by others.

Sometimes instead of chasing down opportunities to use your HUM, opportunities will chase you.  They'll migrate to you.  You'll find yourself the one asked to do something that uses your HUM, or God will plunk you into the perfect situation to release your HUM.

Rather than go on, I'll stop here.  Why not spend some time considering what your HUM is (or what makes you hum).

Later I will help you tie your HUM into your values and personal mission statement.  Your HUM can help you make good decisions and can become a filter for your ideas or dreams.


  1. List 5 things you know you're passionate about.  They can be job related or personal.
  2. List skills you know you have that you use naturally.

Saturday, December 07, 2013

Agility--You've Got to Work Harder in Midlife

On a personal level, I'd like to talk about muscle stiffness.  

I noticed I began getting stiff around age 40.  My husband and I participated in a weekly house group at that time.  There were often not enough comfy seats, and one or two of us would sit on the floor instead. When it was my turn to take a floor position, getting up was a difficult matter.  The stiffness was mostly in my legs and backside, and I was shocked by it.

As the years increased, I noticed I was often stiff all over upon waking.  I'd have to take a 20 minute shower to loosen up.  It was so disconcerting, I spoke to my physician about it.  

I was checked for a few things, but there was no official diagnosis for the issue.  It seemed every couple of days I needed to take Ibuprofen to relieve the pain and stiffness. 


I recall, a time, when it was becoming difficult to raise my leg to put my pants on.  Now, how embarrassing is that?   

It was also difficult to get off our comfy La-z-boy chaise lounge after sitting there to watch an hour of television.  

Last summer, I found it hard to do the front crawl in the pool because one shoulder was locking.  So I went for physio-therapy.  I appreciated my therapist telling me I was rusty in many spots.  What a good way to describe it!

He mentioned that when we get used to a routine, usually job-related, we fail to use all our muscles.  A lot of unused muscles, instead, get rusty.  It makes sense.  Most of us sleep in the same position regularly, slouch in our car while driving, slump over our computer keyboard, and so on.  Unless we are intentional, we may never give some muscle zones attention.


After making progress with the therapist, I decided to do a lot of stretching at home.  I have a yoga book of poses, so refreshed myself on them.  But, actually, I made up a lot of my own poses.  I merely stretched whatever felt tight and held it for 30 seconds.  I also did nice deep breathing for a change which has been amazing.  (You may never pay attention to your breathing otherwise, but imagine what type of breathing you're doing while all scrunched up!)  

This time, when I felt stiff while trying to get up off the sofa, I'd stop and get up slowly, stretching as I did.  I realized all those difficulties--like putting my foot into my pant leg--were merely warning signs of muscle under-use.  So instead, I started to work the muscles to make them more usable. 


I am amazed.  It's only been a few months, and not only do I feel less stiff, I feel more relaxed.  I'm more agile all over.  Recently, I had to step down off some bleachers.  Formerly, that would have been difficult.  This time I did it with confidence and without too much stiffness.  

So today, I want to urge you.  Don't give in to stiffness and pain.  Address it, work it regularly.  Get yourself back in shape for as much as your body allows you to.  You will be glad you did.