Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Local Accountability Group for Women

Cambridge, ON Group for Women

Star Bakery
17 Queen St E, Cambridge, ON N1H 2A7

Local Group for Christian Women 

Hey women in the Cambridge, Ontario area...I'm gathering emails/names of women who are looking for connection with a purpose--a group that will help you gain life momentum. 

The first group will be in downtown Hespeler at Star Bakery & Deli  (pictured above) Tuesdays, around 1 or 1:30 pm - start date depends on signups. There is street parking and free public lots in the area.

It will be a short 4 week, 4 session group Tuesdays for about 1.5 hr. I'm just now putting together the curriculum. It will be more than getting to know you chit chat, you will leave the group feeling you've worked on your life in some way. 

First Group

I'm calling this first group FIRST GROUP. Why? Because it's a new first for me here in Hespeler (I've done similar groups in Winnipeg in the past). Also, this first group will be a first for you if you join.

FIRST GROUP is for women looking for CONNECTION and ACCOUNTABILITY. 


I'm a certified Christian life coach and group facilitator so my faith is usually combined in my sessions in some small way.  Why faith? Because there is more power in moving forward in life with God beside you. This is a good group for Christian women or those open to the faith.


The good news for you is it is no-charge, and I have no hidden agenda to get you as a client or anything of that nature. I merely want to reach out to others as well as stay involved in the community myself. I'm also a freelance writer and want to break my tendency to isolate. So I won't only lead the group, I'll participate in it for myself. 

You will be expected to purchase a food or beverage item from the bakery from as low as a couple of dollars to more. You can consume what you buy during our meeting (he has muffins, squares, soup and sandwiches) or you can take something home. If I know what you'd like (coffee and muffin?), I can ensure Dan has the item on hand when you arrive as he often has only a changing small supply on display.

You can even order a unique dessert, dinner meal, or bag of buns to take home. I've often ordered certain flavoured cakes or pies and bags of buns to take home for bbq parties from Dan. 

Subject Matter 

My initial thought for this FIRST GROUP is to look at LIFE BALANCE. 

We will look at and discuss the responsibilities God has given you, the situations you are in, your passions, gifts and abilities. We will look at our physical health too. 

We will look at all of this with the goal of checking what's in balance and what is out of balance. We will look at what we are resisting accepting that is causing us discontent. We will consider the idea that where we are is of God's design and if it is not what needs to change. 

You will consider what goals you want to set and over four weeks report back if you've taken any steps. 

What this Group is Not

This group is not for the purpose of business networking. Business networking may occur naturally, but no one is to join if their motive is to promote their business to gain clients.

This group is not for anyone who wants to Christian-bash. 

This group is not for those who want to join in just to do me a favour. 

This group is not to induce pressure to change. In four weeks, it's better to contemplate baby steps than to set high lofty goals in most cases. There will be no pressure to radically change your life. 

Proposed Benefits 

We all crave connection. This is one place you may find that. 

We all do better with accountability. You may find it helpful.

You may feel more supported. 

You may gain more clarity about your life.

You may have the chance to encourage or help another person.

The Target Audience

This FIRST GROUP will be non-age specific. It is open to at-home moms, working women, midlife women, those with a disability, seniors, etc. 

My hope is with this open range, I can see needs of various women and perhaps tailor other specific groups in the future. 

My plan is to offer further groups on various topics, some including art journalling, vision boards, and so on. 

There will be a group size restriction. To apply to be part of the group, please email me and tell me why you want to join this FIRST GROUP. 

Sunday, May 28, 2017

Are You Being Tempted without Realizing It?

(re-write from 2 yrs ago)

I came to a conclusion in the last few years about how best to handle feelings of melancholy and hopelessness and how to prevent them from taking us into a deeper downward spiral of despair and depression. 

(I haven’t seen this thought written on by any other Christian writer, it’s something God pressed upon my mind.)  

The conclusion is that downward emotional spirals start with temptation. 

Yes, in many cases we are more vulnerable to emotional spirals due to hormonal changes, during periods of grief, transition or when dealing with pain or illness. 
You may want to read more on Perimenopause here. Some people do have chemical imbalances in their brains that sometimes need boosting with supplements or even doctor prescribed medications.  Therefore, being vigilant against temptation into despair is even more crucial in those situations. 

It Starts with Temptation

If we are willing to embrace this idea that fretting, worry, anxiety and despair starts with temptation, we can more readily be on guard to fight it.  

It makes sense that since most of our moods stem from our thoughts, that if we're not careful, we can be tempted to think negatively. Our negative thinking then takes us into troublesome areas. 

We can be tempted to get into a place our enemy Satan would like us. He likes it when we feel defeated or when we attack and hurt others due to our own hurt feelings. He loves to drive us into despair where we might consider taking drastic action out of God's best plan.

Seeing how these negative outcomes stem from temptation can help us fight them. 

A Look at Temptation into Despair

We all know we are to pray, “Lead us not into temptation and deliver us from evil.” What temptation do you think of when you say that prayer? 

I have sometimes thought of it as being tempted to get angry, to hurt someone, to cheat or steal something, sexual sin, or to take some other wrong action.  But what if temptation is also these subtle thoughts that overtake us? 

Protect Yourself

Live Defensively

In order to live defensively, become aware of the very instant you begin to feel overwhelmingly lost, sad, hurt, melancholic, depressed or when you sense you're falling into despair, fretting, worry, or doubt.

Then pray, “Lord, I’m being tempted to …” (fill in the blank).

Trust God to stop the enemy for you—to fight for you, to suggest something you can do that will help you escape from such moods.

Exodus 14:14 (NIV) says, “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

Live Offensively

In Matthew 6, Jesus instructed his disciples to ask God, “Lead us not into temptation and deliver us from evil.” He told them to pray, “Give us today our daily bread,” or that which they would need to get through the day in his will. 

In order to live offensively, pray as demonstrated in the Lord’s Prayer.  Start each day asking God to keep you from the temptations of negativity, doubt, fretting, depression, and so on. And if you feel negative feelings creeping up, say the prayer again.  

Friday, May 26, 2017

Just Get Started

Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook gave the graduation speech at Harvard recently. Within it were great thoughts pointing to the need of individuals to have life purpose.

Over ten years ago I had a longing for purpose, prayed and then saw a book for sale in the grocery store called Pathway to Purpose for Women. It was by Katie Brazelton and it said she was from Saddleback Church so I was intrigued. (My husband and I had gone to a church growth conference at Saddleback Church on our honeymoon 26 yrs ago so the organization was near and dear to me.) I knew I had to purchase the book. That one God-instructed decision inspired the rest of my life direction.

Getting back to I have been well-acquainted with mankind's need for life purpose...but it is interesting to hear a viewpoint from today's millennial generation.

While Zuckerberg does point to the potential for big ideas, he also pares it down by honestly pointing out the reality that every big idea starts small, comes with risk, potential for failure, and requires persistence. Here is a quote:

"Ideas don't come out fully formed. They only become clear as you work on them. You just have to get started."

I haven't produced big earth-changing products, but I have experienced this theory of things becoming clearer as you work on them. After my coach training, I started this blog. From it I wrote Kindle books for sale on Amazon. As I work on my writing, things become clearer.

I got back into art after needing something to de-stress. I now have a full website full of paintings and an Instagram page full of novelty art illustrations. I don't know the end of the story for any of them. My goal has been to share my work with the world and the Internet allows me to do that.

I sketched, I painted, I doodled with coloured pencils, I learned how to scan them in, I learned how to load them on Fine Art America, I learned how to convert computer photos to Instagram...Everything has been self-taught. I just got started on each project.

If you have an idea, just get started on it! Start where you are with what you have and grow. You'll feel a greater sense of purpose when you do.

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Design Your Midlife Transition Roadmap (MTR)

Are you looking for a place to start your midlife journey? Maybe you've been in midlife for a while and want to gain some clarity. Perhaps you're entering the empty nest and dealing with a variety of new challenges you didn't expect. 

My new book Design Your Midlife Transition Roadmap (MTR) Module 1 is now up on Amazon for $2.99. This three chapter eBook can be viewed on any electronic device. 

This is a self-coaching tool you can work through it at your own pace. The idea is you create a journal or large picture that spells out where you've been, who you are now, and where you might head next. 

I will be adding more modules in the near future. It would be great to use as a discussion tool with a friend or in a group. 

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Walk Through Struggles

Last October I asked God for something new. It was time for a change and a challenge.

Then I came down with what I call a "syndrome" because many life areas and body parts were affected, but no outside source could really put a finger on what was going on. Nevertheless, my new thing was walking through the syndrome--not quite what I hoped for.

Walking through it took the following:

Backing off what I normally do
 - minimal computer work, minimal housework so neck pain and tinnitus wasn't made more pronounced.

Doing what worked for me - with irregular sleep due to tinnitus and anxiety, I had to take sleep as it came no matter the time of day. I also tried multiple supplements and pain creams.

Laying down guilt 
- Even going to church was stress-inducing until I got the tinnitus and anxiety under control. Until you've experienced an anxiety disorder and life-debilitating tinnitus, you can only assume. So no matter what others thought, I had to do what was right for me which meant watching church on TV for many months instead of going to church.

Encourage myself
 - I took the opportunity to watch every Christian TV show that was on, or so it seemed. It was an interesting endeavor. Doing so helped keep my faith on tap.

Seek Professional Help - I waded through the channels of looking for the right professionals. The best help was in hiring a counselor to help me make decisions and vent my frustration to.

Fortunately, I knew spring was ahead and the outdoors would help me get some mojo back.  Since I wasn't getting much exercise during the syndrome, I began taking 10 minute mini walks around my pool deck all winter--most mornings (or afternoons) once I got out of bed. Walking helps loosen muscles and joints up. Most days now I spend up to 20 minutes on this.

Prayer - I used the resources of multiple prayer lines available. I'm not afraid to ask for support. I prayed for healing (and still do). 

Listening for God - Part of praying is listening for God's responses. Sometimes all we can do is respond to the ideas he gives us and rest that all is as it should be. I often say to myself, "Everything is perfect the way it is if God's in control." 

There is so much peace in leaving your life in God's hands and looking for the good in everything you do or that comes your way. He's allowed me to get back to housework lately as well as enjoy yard work. Yes, I enjoy yard work. I wish my body didn't suffer after because I love transforming things to make them look beautiful and I love to nurture. The outdoors gives me lots of opportunity for that. 

New opportunities - Our calling is not complete until we begin to share our passions with others. I've been looking for new opportunities to do that and God is giving me sneak peaks. He's also giving me time to get ready for what I've seen in the sneak peak. 

So I'm turning a corner and it is a wide, slow turn. 

Can you relate to any of the above?

Saturday, May 06, 2017

Interested in a PDF Download?

 Last Year, I uploaded this eBook. I made it available in PDF format for those who like a printed copy. 

The problem is, the site I do the download to has a threshold. For me to cash out, I need at least another 2 PDFs to be purchased. Are you interested? 

It is priced at $3.96. Here's the link 

This eBook is written for the nest-emptying midlife Christian woman. When she doesn’t seem to be making progress on finding the answers, she feels as though she’s wilting. She longs to hear from God. She needs a new perspective to understand the complicated phase she’s in.
Here, you won’t merely read about the challenges common to this life phase, you’ll ask yourself probing questions and find tips designed to encourage you to thrive not wilt. Each tip is described as a prescription--an idea to embrace to help you live with greater purpose.
This eBook is written from a Christian perspective and designed for Christ-followers.
This is one more eBook in a series of Self-Coaching Tools for Christian Women.

Monday, May 01, 2017

New eBook Coming Out to Map your Life

Just a quick update this cold April day. I've had a project in the works for a couple years now. If you go to you will see my site called "Design Your MTR - Midlife Transition Roadmap." 

My dream was to create a number of self-coaching modules a woman can work through on her own during her various phases of midlife transition. The topic is so huge that I got derailed a number of times. Too many times! 

Recently, I went back and challenged myself to cut it down and get back to the original focus. It's always hard where there is too much material and I try to condense it. Nevertheless, Module 1 is soon to come out in both PDF and Kindle. 

The idea is a reader will draw her own roadmap. That means she will take a journal, sheet of paper, or software program and respond to probing questions. The result will be a collection of discoveries about where she is, what needs to change, where to head, and so on. She will collect Bible verse, quotes, and anything else that inspires her. 

Keep an eye out for it and I hope you will buy a copy for yourself. 

Again, it will be called Design Your  Midlife Transition Roadmap  Module 1.