For many women this time of year can be frightening. Many will be sending a child or more off to college/university. Some will commute from home, others will move out and into residence.
This transition is a marker not only for the child, but for the parents. If you fit into this category and you feel uneasy, you probably aren't alone. A little uneasiness is normal.
There are always strategies to put in place to walk through this phase joyfully. As I've navigated this journey with putting two of my own children into university residence, I now pass on these tips to you:
- Trust God, once more. Release them into his care. Trust that he will unfold your next steps too.
- God will give you supernatural grace to see it through.
- Don't project your thoughts into the far future and get hung up on being "without" them. Let things unfold a day and step at a time.
- This will be the beginning of a new phase for you too. You will be introduced to new adventures through them.
- The school year is short. They will probably be back Thanksgiving, Christmas, reading week and possibly weekends along the way.
- You'll have benefits of them being gone. You'll be freer to do more since you won't have to drive them around, share a car, make meals, buy a constant supply of groceries, etc.
- Keep in touch by email, phone, texting or Facebook messages (you don't have to friend them).
- Visit their campus and take them out for a meal. Don't over-do it though.
- Let them know they are always welcome to come home. If they shy away from returning home, specifically invite them. Tell them to bring along new friends if they'd like.
Remember you raised them for this moment. Be proud of the steps they will take.