Monday, March 23, 2015

Women and Moods

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Many women think a lot.  We wonder.  We ponder.  We analyze.  We are sometimes proud of our wisdom, and sometimes annoyed at the over-analysis we do.  Our own thoughts bring us down many times.  We live in perception instead of getting the facts straight.  Sometimes, we project our feelings on unsuspecting people. 

We might be peaceful and joyful one day, and down and low in confidence the next.  It's just so much to handle!

Sometimes thoughts are driven by overwhelm, tiredness, or physical pain. Getting rest will be helpful.

Sometimes thoughts are associated with a process of grieving. We grieve changes.  We grieve losses. Grieving is a normal part of letting go. Small spurts of grief are healthy. It's okay to feel pain.  .
Some feelings are driven by melancholy. This might include focusing on the good old days, the old friends, you years as a preschool child's mother. Sometimes a movie, music or possession triggers sad feelings. 

Feelings aren't bad.  They're part of the human condition.  But it's not good to get stuck in them. We all benefit from learning how to process our feelings.

Move On

Author Susan Miller says it's helpful to feel feelings and then move back into the present quickly.  She suggests a woman learn to cherish good times, but to be cautious of clinging to them.  A good way to move on is to train your brain to focus on new goals.  Another way to move on is to consider possibilities.  Thinking positive thoughts is always helpful.

When overcome by moods, it can be helpful to simply look at what is in front of you and tend to the associated tasks. 

If moodiness is sticking around, maybe it's time for a physical checkup, change of scenery, time to change something you're doing in your life.


Having times of peaceful Bible reading and prayer is key to managing moods.  Try reading through the Book of Psalms.  Sit in a relaxing pose and do deep breathing.   

Drink water.  Do things you enjoy.  Let your creativity out.  Try dancing, colouring, or taking fun photos.

Take Steps

What steps do you need to  take to process your moods?

Here are a few prompting questions:

  1. Do you have a journal to write your thoughts in?
  2. Does exercise as simple as going for a brisk walk help relieve them?
  3. Do you mind your nutrition to ensure you're eating brain-healthy food?
  4. Do you get regular physical checkups?
  5. Do you take brain and body-healthy supplements?
  6. Do you have someone to share your feelings with?
  7. Do you pray?
  8. Do you use positive self-talk.
  9. Do you take confidence in God's guidance?
  10. Do you go easy on yourself?


Saturday, March 14, 2015

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

What's Working?

So busy working on my next eBook I have no time to write.  Pictured is a working title and cover for the upcoming book.
Working Title/Cover
 of New eBook

In the meantime, here is a tidbit for you.

Focus on what's working.

That's right.  Start your day with looking at what's working, what you've done well, what you have that you are thankful for.

Stop habits of looking for problems.  Stop thinking negatively.  Stop reporting on what's not working. Stop complaining.  Stop worrying about problems, give them to God.

Doing this simple act of focusing on what's working will help your life immensely. 

Monday, March 02, 2015

Fight the Good Fight Against Depression

I didn't write my last post on depression because I was depressed.  I wasn't, but I know this time of year is hard for many people, and I too need to stay alert.

Tonight I watched TSN's Michael Landsberg's short story on depression entitled, Darkness and Hope: Depression, Sports and Me.  I gleaned several points from the guests that I'd like to share with you now.

The guests were former athletes, which we know is a short-lived career.  If a person's value is wrapped up in what they do, they are vulnerable for depression when it's taken away.

For many women, it may not be our sport we wish we could go back to, but our old fun self, our school days, our dating years or early marriage, our time with toddlers, our career we once had, our attractive slim body, you name it.   Moving forward is all part of aging.

Achieving success or fame doesn't prevent or cure depression. Forgive me for not remembering all their names, but one former athlete, a Stanley Cup winner, admitted he was depressed during the hockey series. He removed himself from being in the winning photographs, and became severely depressed the week after winning the Stanley Cup with his team.

So it's not fame and lack of fame that causes depression, depression is a chronic illness that can be debilitating if not managed.

Canadian Olympian Clara Hughes says you never know when that one little thing will trigger you. She fears those triggers, as do I.

But it is more than a trigger that brings on depression, it is a biochemical issue connected to triggers.  That is why medication helps many women cope.  There is a brain chemistry mix-up that medication can help put into balance.  The triggers, on the other hand, are usually connected to thoughts which can often be helped with therapy.

Talk it Out

But we can't just call up our therapist at a moment's notice.  We need someone else to talk to from time-to-time. 

Some of the guests on the presentation mentioned how important their significant other was in helping them cope.  Talking it out helps immensely. Unconditional love does too.

If you don't have a significant other to talk to about your depression, you might want to call a trusted friend, or call a hotline like Telecare or Distress Centre in your area.  

You may need to visit your doctor and tell him or her you need help. You may benefit from seeing a counsellor.  Your work medical plan may cover the cost.

The guests emphasized the need for having their own "system" in place to help them with the threat of an episode.  I liked the sound of that and wished they would all have shared their personal systems.

I too have a system in place and I will share that in another post.  

When threatened with depression, we need hope. Hearing others' stories sometimes gives us that hope.

If you're prone to depression, tell someone. Fight it. Create a system. Hang on to hope.  

Pray to me when you are in trouble! I will deliver you.  Psalm 50:15 NET Bible

Sunday, March 01, 2015

Do You Deal with Anxiety, Depression or Worry?

Do you suffer with a mood disorder?  Do you feel an underlying sadness far too often? Have you had your health checked? 

Even women who have sought treatment for these disorders can still be troubled by them now and then.

I've been studying a book on anxiety and depression. The writer suggests that anxiety and depression are often due to biochemical imbalances that are as simple as a woman's hormones changing monthly, but in other cases these symptoms can be the result of feelings of insecurity.

He suggests anxiety and depression can be symptoms that rise as an attempt to gain control of a situation.

Many women try to control life with worry.   The problem is,  it doesn't bring the desired solution. Worry brings more worry, and with it anxiety and depression.


So what is a way to counteract distressing anxiety and depression?

Though it may seem contradictory, letting go and trusting God is the ideal solution.

    Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 

Philippians 4:8-9

Trust in the Lord always, for the Lord God is the eternal Rock.Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you. ~

  • What would letting go look like to you?
  • What would you do if I told you to take your worry and put it to rest?
Picture yourself putting your worry into the hands of Jesus.
(If you have ongoing or worsening depression, please see a doctor as soon as possible.)