|My Daughter after her Grad Ball June, 2010|
Motherhood - I'm not going into the details of childbirth and raising preschoolers. If you're a mom you know it. I will say, a woman's entrance into motherhood is jarring. At least it was for me. And there's no turning back. It is a commitment that sees a lot of highs and downright exhausting and frustrating lows. And so the metamorphosis of the mom-woman begins.
Mothering the In-School Child - Once both my children were in school I grieved the loss of their babyhood. Let me remind you I'd left the workforce and had been home fulltime. Yes, I craved the "me" time, but it hit me that my children were no longer babies and the baby clothes had to be packed up. Once again my role changed too. A season had passed.
Mothering the 10 and Up - Another stage of grief hit as my youngest started to give up playing with toys, and the day was approaching when he would no longer hold my hand while walking to a store, etc. The children's interests turned to technology and I was needed even less. Enter the "Who am I now?" mom.
About that time I purchased a book "The 8 Seasons of Parenting". I recommend it. It spelled the stages out so well. It was helpful to realize my experiences seemed to fit very well into the descriptions in the book.
This book can be read in stages. As a new stage unfolds, you can read the next chapter. That's what I did. This book has become one of my choice guidebooks for managing motherhood.
Peri-Menopause and the "My daughter's about to graduate high school" Mom - eventually graduation arrived--in tandem with other midlife issues. That's a whole other topic. (See my Midlife Christian Woman blog if you like). It was challenging, but I got through it.
My Daughter's Off to University Mothering - As I write, my daughter's completing her 5th year. She's lived on campus for all five and has been on the student executive--a paid position--and even a couple of summers stayed there to work. My son is finishing his 2nd year of university. Going through this phase was not without a few tears, but did just as we all do--I walked through it. And in the end, I'm presently surprised how I've gotten used to the idea of it just being me and my husband at home.
Even this dedicated momma got tired!
- Where are you in your parenting?
- How has your personality changed over the years of being a mom?
- How do you feel about the current stage you're in?