Thursday, June 12, 2014

Transformation is Always Available

Tonight I watched TV show "Style by Jury."  I'm a little jealous of the transformations I've seen on that show. 

Some shows feature a life coach.  The coach on the show I watched got down to the truth with the client.  He called her up for not taking responsibility for her life.  He called her up on living like a child when she indeed was a woman.  He challenged her to grow up.

She felt uncomfortable.  It hurts to be criticized.  But as a fellow coach, I know he did it for her own good.  She needed to hear what he had to say.  She needed to go away and question how she'd been doing life. 

Transformation is always available.  We can blame others and fail to take responsibility, but we will stay where we are.  Nothing will change.  We'll still repel people. We'll still cry out for more and better.

Or we can become humble, admit where we're wrong, admit our sins to God, admit our faults to ourselves, seek to correct our behaviour, and so on.  

Read these verses to hear from God for yourself:

"Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land" 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NLT).

"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in honor" James 4:10 (NLT).

Wednesday, June 04, 2014

What Life Coaching is Like

I'm sharing this for you more than me.  Actually, I'm not taking telephone clients right now, so this is not a solicitation.  

I want to tell you about the coaching process and why you might want to consider it.  Some have heard of life coaching, others barely know what it is.  Coaching doesn't mean some woman will dissect your life and tell you what to do. A coach becomes your cheerleader.  She is not a therapist.  She is a trained listener who tries to choose the best questions to ask that will help you make some sense of your life. 

I have found, as others have, that being fortunate to have another person devote a good hour to listening to your life story is rare.  Not only does a coach listen unlike any other friend, a coach hears what you say.  A coach encourages you.  A coach chooses to stand by your side. 

There are some coaches that talk too much, and I probably have too.  I had one client I'll call Erica, who was so quiet, I had to initiate questions to draw her out.  That made it difficult for me not to talk more than she did.

When you get comfortable with your coach, you'll more easily decide what to talk about and what to leave out.  Having a trusted friend to hear all about your life is a vital and healthy asset.   I recommend you try it if you haven't already.