I started my life coaching career with training as a Life Purpose Coach®. It uses a curriculum that guides women through assessments of various life areas. The goal is to help a woman define her calling, mission, purpose, and so on.
I found while coaching women through this process that other issues rose to the surface. That's fine because life coaching is about the full context of a woman's life.
(Some details changed to protect identities.) One woman I coached was in the empty nest looking for purpose as a former stay-at-home mom. Another had lost her job and was looking for support wading through that transition. Another was chronically depressed, seeing a counselor, but wanted more support. Another was so tied up helping in her husband's business that she felt frayed in her personal life. Yet another just wanted to fill the emotional void that haunted her.
Most wanted concrete answers--a sense of direction. The curriculum pointed each in several directions. Still, I know very well, there were unanswered questions.
How God Works
I'm pretty sure the journey through life coaching can feel fruitless for some because they expect by the end to have a great epiphany and know what to do next. I've decided it's imperative they know that God rarely points out big specific plans. His plan is that women draw near to him on a daily basis and proceed one small step at a time. These steps can be so small it seems as though nothing is happening.
I'm pretty convinced to succeed in life and to feel a life coaching process has worked for you, you'll need to see it as a step in your life journey--not a destination that answers all your questions through a few sessions.
It's important we learn to separate feelings from solutions. As with many things in life, it's not that we want a destination as much as we want to feel happy. When we go to the dentist it isn't because we want a filling, it's because we don't want to have tooth pain. When someone climbs a hydro tower and threatens to jump off it isn't because they want to die, it is because they don't want to feel depressed.
Often, we go hunting for a solution to fix how we're feeling. We look for a new job. We take a vacation. We assume if we just do this or that, that we'll be happy. It's not about the destination, though, it's about what we think the destination will do for us.
Of course, new destinations can snap us out of doldrums. A new job may be wonderful. A visit to the mall might get our eyes off our problem. A key to solving our pain is presenting our feelings to God and allowing him to meet our needs in whatever creative ways he chooses.
I'm trying to say, quit trying to think so hard about what destination is alluding you. Quit applying for multiple jobs. Quit spending money on things you believe may fill your void.
If God thinks a new job is the answer, surely he'll open that door. But if he thinks a slower pace of life is what you need, he may keep the job door shut. But he won't leave you there. He will change your circumstances, providing for your needs, and he will lift you up to greater fulfillment at the same time. It's inexplicable.
I had been looking for purpose myself when God connected me with Katie Brazelton, the founder of the training I took. I was giddy with glee finding my thing--my new destination. But that wasn't the end of the story. I found too many uneventful days existed between clients. I felt unsupported as an entrepreneur. I was again at a point of screaming inside again for greater life purpose.
As I worked with one or two remaining clients, I branched out. I did some home staging for a realtor. I got hired to write web content from home. Then I got hired to do audio transcription from home. When my children graduated high school, I reassessed yet again. I backed away from telephone coaching, but I couldn't abandon it completely.
I'd been in peri-menopause, and with the addition of the empty nest highs and lows, discovered what some of the women I'd coached had expressed. I realized many of their issues were menopause, midlife, empty-nest, and family- circumstance related.
I had a big revelation that tools were needed for midlife Christian women. I decided a new angle needed to be introduced to the life purpose theme in life coaching sessions.
My eBooks and Coaching Practice
I've now written several eBooks available on Amazon under the name Rose Garde. I'm about to release a new one any day now.
I'm pondering being available to help women walk through any of these eBooks with me over coaching sessions on the telephone. I am always still available for coaching by email. Pray with me as I consider my next step in this regard.