Friday, April 18, 2014

Stop Evaluating Everything!

I think it's built into us to evaluate and grade not only ourselves at every stop, but those around us.  Through trying to be successful at school and working at jobs where constant improvement is demanded, it's no wonder we think that way.  

But constant evaluation can be very hard on us.  God may not even want us to do all the evaluating we do.  

I suggest you Stop Evaluating


If we're to be content with life, we'll need to consider what "success" or "bearing fruit" means. Is it about job promotion, salary, and achievement? Or is it in doing unseen Kingdom work?

Kingdom work is work that which accomplishes spiritual goals.  To do Kingdom work is to do what God suggests you do, where he sends you to do it. 

Kingdom work may be unpaid.  It may involve cost of time, money, or energy.

Kingdom work may be paid in other ways--riches in heaven, or earthly rewards God brings you through a way other than income.  You may earn greater peace, joy, and fulfillment through completing Kingdom assignments 

Kingdom work involves planting seeds and/or watering them.  It involves using our gifts and abilities to help others and to spread God's message of love. 

It involves watering seeds other people have planted, whether we know it or not. It means nurturing the growth of young plants--being there for those who need guidance.  

Focusing on Kingdom work earns you Kingdom commodity.

Kingdom work is hard to measure.  No one around us may see all the work we do.  We may not have tables and charts to present.  Nevertheless, God knows and we know and that's what matters most. 

Friday, April 11, 2014

Are you Having a Midlife Crisis? Here's a New Tool For You

Here's my latest eBook for Christian women in midlife crisis:

This book has been in progress for some time.  If you feel you're stuck in a midlife crisis of sorts, this book may help you move forward in your journey.

It talks about many of the dilemmas midlife women face and provides helpful conclusions and steps to take to work through the struggles. 

Friday, March 21, 2014

Clear Your Life of Troubling Thought Habits

Be Aware of Strongholds.  Snip them Out of Your Life!

If you impulsively tend to think in black or white, that is, believe something has to be either right or wrong; a person is either likable or unlikeable; ask yourself if there might be a stronghold tied around your neck yanking you around like a dog on a leash.

A stronghold is a fortress of faulty thinking that keeps you from God's best.

Spiritually speaking, it isn't a human holding the other end of the leash in this case, it is a demon.  The demon is intent on causing trouble and getting a person off-course.  Demons hate God and are in warfare with humans!

If you suspect you have a stronghold of this nature, stop reacting, and turn to the Truth for clarity:  God and his word are the Truth.

Questions that begin with What if anticipate problems.  Anticipating danger is important, but a lot of what ifs never happen.  This type of thinking can lead to unnecessary worry, anxiety, self-sabotage and blockage.  This type of thinking can be used by the evil one to stop you from moving forward in your calling.

Statements that use the word Should are control statements.  Well-meaning friends often start sentences with it, "You should do this or that..."  When they do, we often recoil.  Most of us don't want anyone telling us what to do.

More often than not, we put "I shoulds" on ourselves too.  Doing so implies we aren't doing something that we should be doing, and therefore we are putting false guilt on ourselves.

Instead of getting caught in a should trap, say, "I could, I want to, Maybe I'll..." and so on.  The choice is ours.

We only need to ask God what it is he wants us to do.  He pricks our conscience, but he doesn't lay guilt.  He helps us accomplish what he wants us to do.  He leads us and stops us.  He doesn't beat us for not doing something.


Friday, February 28, 2014

What is Life Coaching?

I've been busy with a few projects and haven't updated this lately.  Let me write a quick blog that might meet the purpose for someone who is about to visit.

If you've heard of life coaching, or thought of hiring one, let me explain a bit.

Life coaching is helpful for anyone who would like help walking through an issue--especially one they need or want to keep confidential--helpful for someone needing to make decisions, or find direction.  The coaching process is designed to help bring you clarity for your issue.

There are a few coaches around who like to teach or advise you.  You must be certain that's what you want and clarify your coach's style upfront so you're both clear.  True coaching doesn't teach or advise.  That is consulting. Some, however, offer curriculum to help you through a coaching process.  You can decide if that's a worthwhile choice for you.

A coach will ask you questions and hear your viewpoints.  Through your conversation you will make decisions for yourself.

I know that sounds odd.  I know when I went to a life coach I thought, "That's why I'm going to her because I don't know what I want."  Sometimes it takes time--even years to figure out the answers.

Don't expect a life coach to transform your life, or be angry when after a session you feel the same as before.  Transformation comes from you.  Only you can decide what you'll try, what next steps to take, what you'll say no to, and so on.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Good Goals

A NICE WINTER GETAWAY - Botanical Gardens Burlington, ON

Is setting new goals spiritual?  I'd say so.  Let's look at this verse: 

    Romans 12:2
    Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

God is all about transformation, change and growth.  If you let God in to do the transforming, you will uncover his good and pleasing will for your life!

Here are a few worthy New Year's goals to have:

Goals for the New Year:
  1. Develop greater confidence in God by gaining more knowledge of him:  Only if you know God and how he works will you be able to thoroughly trust him.  Life deals tough blows and you'll handle them better if you are able to walk through them with a God you know and trust.  

  2. Put God in Charge:  No matter how much you think you've given your life and belongings over to God, before you know it, you will begin to take parts back.

    Everything belongs to God.  You belong to God, and all you possess belongs to God.  You are merely a steward.

    Invite God into everything you do.  Invite him into your relationships, your work, when making up your to-do list, your meal planning, your exercise routine, your bank book, and your decisions.  Keep putting him in his rightful place. Start your day talking to God. 

    (If you think this point is over-spiritualizing, that shows me you really need to look seriously at this area.)
  3. Grow in God-confidence:  Make connections between your prayers and what happens next.  Look for his hand working in your circumstances.  Then, give him thanks.  Record revelations.  Record answers to prayer.  Give him credit.  Use today's successes as reminders for the future. 
To summarize, the goals suggested above are to develop greater confidence in God.  Then he can transform you.