Don’t worry if you aren’t quite sure of your life message. God knows, and as long as you abide with him, he will work out every detail and bring his purposes to fruition.
The story of your life is written on your heart at conception and develops through time. Seeing the bigger picture of it always comes through progressive revelation. Ideas or themes emerge as you progressively make choices and live through experiences.
Though your purpose has been written on your heart from the beginning, it may not be fully revealed or understood until much later.
Life coach Tony Stolztfus suggests there are several methods of uncovering your life message. One may be as simple as examining the why behind your actions—asking what the task is supposed to accomplish. There is always a motive behind what we do. I believe stopping to ask why ahead of time will help you clarify if it is something on par with your perceived calling or if you could spend your time better elsewhere.
Here is Stolztfus’ list of questions to ask about any activity:
§ “Why do you want to do this task? What is the purpose of doing it?”
§ “Why is this important? Why does God care about this?”
§ “What part of Christ’s heart is this task meant to convey to your audience?”
§ “If the total of your impact was that people ‘got’ something that Christ built into your own life, what would you most want that something to be?”
§ “If you strip away all the externals—the actual acts of service, the organization, the planning, the finances—and all that was left was the message you want to convey, what would it be in one sentence?”
I find this last question very helpful recently. As women, we are very task-oriented. Last night I hosted our small group. Of course, I spent time cleaning, shopping, and preparing to receive guests. I thought of the story of Mary and Martha as I worked, and I felt conflicted in how much “fluffing” I really needed to do. But this last question gives me relief. When I strip away the shopping, organizing, any money spent, I can examine the message I wanted to convey through it all. Would the message be that I wanted to impress people? Would the message be that I wanted to outdo anyone? Was it one of self-importance?
No, my message is and most always has been, to bless those who come to my home—to provide an experience—an inviting environment where my guests can relax, open up, and exchange God’s truths.
I don't like housework, cooking or baking, but as an artist, I can’t resist decorating and fluffing now and then—it’s who I am—a very visual person. I don’t do it for show, I do it for personal pleasure and always with a goal to delight others. It’s the way I express myself.
Try this list for yourself. Apply it to a variety of actions you take this week.