Continuing from my last post about looking for solutions for life's issues I want to help you pause a little more.
Most women have "pain points." A pain point may be described as:
an emotional symptom you are experiencing due to not achieving a goal or having what you really want in life.
Pain points can be unresolved long-term issues, but can also crop up just when doing life. For instance, I stepped on the scale today after a few days of ignoring it. I was heavier than I imagined and immediately plummeted into self-loathing. I felt pain. Things still need to change if I'm to reach my desired goal of full-body health.
Another common issue women have is solving their common craving to be seen, heard, and acknowledged and to have connection. The frustration with this craving is that we cannot force others to see us, hear us, or acknowledge us. But we can cultivate connection.
Some women think they'll find the answers to these cravings in a job. And they may. Jobs can be fulfilling. But jobs can also be band-aid solutions that keep a woman busy so she doesn't have to face her inner turmoil. Empowering herself to change her own life or mindset is a better goal than looking for a band-aid solution.
By midlife, some women can't get hired. Some are burned out. Some have health issues keeping them from working. Others have outdated skills and can't compete. Some choose early retirement and find it hard to know where they fit. They aren't used to an open schedule.
Women of all ages need to become creative about living out their life calling.
I refer to midlife women having the above-noted cravings, but others do too. When I was an at-home mom I realized I wasn't used to an unscheduled life. I had to learn how to navigate a different sort of schedule if I was to feel happy about my choice to stay home.
Any old job may pay the bills and keep a woman busy, but a job won't necessarily give a woman the connection or validation she desires. A nagging sense of fulfillment remains.
To move forward from pain to prosperity, a woman needs to know who she is and what she wants. As a Christ-follower, it may be more appropriate to say she will need to know how God has wired her, and what He wants her to do in life. Seeking God in the midst of pain is the right thing to do.
Before moving on in her journey, I suggest a woman take time to breathe and ponder. She can review her past and examine her present deciding on where there are voids.
She can ask God to reveal what He wants her to know. She can fast from computer, TV, or food and spend time outside being with herself.
She will need to listen for God, listen to her heart, and capture glimmers of clarity when they arrive.
THE GOAL OF A PAUSE PHASE
In this pause phase, I hope a woman will get clear on what new fulfillment she desires. The picture of fulfillment becomes her new goal. Inside the bigger goal, she can ask what needs to change or happen if she's to get there? What steps does she need to take? Who does she need to take along the journey (if anyone)? What pace does she need to travel at? What results does she seek and are they realistic? What safety gear can she put in place in case of a fallout?
How about doing the above exercise yourself?