Friday, May 26, 2017

Just Get Started




Mark Zuckerberg, founder of Facebook gave the graduation speech at Harvard recently. Within it were great thoughts pointing to the need of individuals to have life purpose.

Over ten years ago I had a longing for purpose, prayed and then saw a book for sale in the grocery store called Pathway to Purpose for Women. It was by Katie Brazelton and it said she was from Saddleback Church so I was intrigued. (My husband and I had gone to a church growth conference at Saddleback Church on our honeymoon 26 yrs ago so the organization was near and dear to me.) I knew I had to purchase the book. That one God-instructed decision inspired the rest of my life direction.

Getting back to Zuckerberg...so I have been well-acquainted with mankind's need for life purpose...but it is interesting to hear a viewpoint from today's millennial generation.

While Zuckerberg does point to the potential for big ideas, he also pares it down by honestly pointing out the reality that every big idea starts small, comes with risk, potential for failure, and requires persistence. Here is a quote:

"Ideas don't come out fully formed. They only become clear as you work on them. You just have to get started."

I haven't produced big earth-changing products, but I have experienced this theory of things becoming clearer as you work on them. After my coach training, I started this blog. From it I wrote Kindle books for sale on Amazon. As I work on my writing, things become clearer.

I got back into art after needing something to de-stress. I now have a full website full of paintings and an Instagram page full of novelty art illustrations. I don't know the end of the story for any of them. My goal has been to share my work with the world and the Internet allows me to do that.

I sketched, I painted, I doodled with coloured pencils, I learned how to scan them in, I learned how to load them on Fine Art America, I learned how to convert computer photos to Instagram...Everything has been self-taught. I just got started on each project.

If you have an idea, just get started on it! Start where you are with what you have and grow. You'll feel a greater sense of purpose when you do.


Saturday, May 20, 2017

Design Your Midlife Transition Roadmap (MTR)



Are you looking for a place to start your midlife journey? Maybe you've been in midlife for a while and want to gain some clarity. Perhaps you're entering the empty nest and dealing with a variety of new challenges you didn't expect. 

My new book Design Your Midlife Transition Roadmap (MTR) Module 1 is now up on Amazon for $2.99. This three chapter eBook can be viewed on any electronic device. 

This is a self-coaching tool you can work through it at your own pace. The idea is you create a journal or large picture that spells out where you've been, who you are now, and where you might head next. 

I will be adding more modules in the near future. It would be great to use as a discussion tool with a friend or in a group. 

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Walk Through Struggles

Last October I asked God for something new. It was time for a change and a challenge.

Then I came down with what I call a "syndrome" because many life areas and body parts were affected, but no outside source could really put a finger on what was going on. Nevertheless, my new thing was walking through the syndrome--not quite what I hoped for.

Walking through it took the following:

Backing off what I normally do
 - minimal computer work, minimal housework so neck pain and tinnitus wasn't made more pronounced.

Doing what worked for me - with irregular sleep due to tinnitus and anxiety, I had to take sleep as it came no matter the time of day. I also tried multiple supplements and pain creams.

Laying down guilt 
- Even going to church was stress-inducing until I got the tinnitus and anxiety under control. Until you've experienced an anxiety disorder and life-debilitating tinnitus, you can only assume. So no matter what others thought, I had to do what was right for me which meant watching church on TV for many months instead of going to church.

Encourage myself
 - I took the opportunity to watch every Christian TV show that was on, or so it seemed. It was an interesting endeavor. Doing so helped keep my faith on tap.

Seek Professional Help - I waded through the channels of looking for the right professionals. The best help was in hiring a counselor to help me make decisions and vent my frustration to.

Fortunately, I knew spring was ahead and the outdoors would help me get some mojo back.  Since I wasn't getting much exercise during the syndrome, I began taking 10 minute mini walks around my pool deck all winter--most mornings (or afternoons) once I got out of bed. Walking helps loosen muscles and joints up. Most days now I spend up to 20 minutes on this.

Prayer - I used the resources of multiple prayer lines available. I'm not afraid to ask for support. I prayed for healing (and still do). 

Listening for God - Part of praying is listening for God's responses. Sometimes all we can do is respond to the ideas he gives us and rest that all is as it should be. I often say to myself, "Everything is perfect the way it is if God's in control." 

There is so much peace in leaving your life in God's hands and looking for the good in everything you do or that comes your way. He's allowed me to get back to housework lately as well as enjoy yard work. Yes, I enjoy yard work. I wish my body didn't suffer after because I love transforming things to make them look beautiful and I love to nurture. The outdoors gives me lots of opportunity for that. 

New opportunities - Our calling is not complete until we begin to share our passions with others. I've been looking for new opportunities to do that and God is giving me sneak peaks. He's also giving me time to get ready for what I've seen in the sneak peak. 

So I'm turning a corner and it is a wide, slow turn. 


Can you relate to any of the above?

Saturday, May 06, 2017

Interested in a PDF Download?


 Last Year, I uploaded this eBook. I made it available in PDF format for those who like a printed copy. 

The problem is, the site I do the download to has a threshold. For me to cash out, I need at least another 2 PDFs to be purchased. Are you interested? 

It is priced at $3.96. Here's the link 


This eBook is written for the nest-emptying midlife Christian woman. When she doesn’t seem to be making progress on finding the answers, she feels as though she’s wilting. She longs to hear from God. She needs a new perspective to understand the complicated phase she’s in.
Here, you won’t merely read about the challenges common to this life phase, you’ll ask yourself probing questions and find tips designed to encourage you to thrive not wilt. Each tip is described as a prescription--an idea to embrace to help you live with greater purpose.
This eBook is written from a Christian perspective and designed for Christ-followers.
This is one more eBook in a series of Self-Coaching Tools for Christian Women.

Monday, May 01, 2017

New eBook Coming Out to Map your Life


Just a quick update this cold April day. I've had a project in the works for a couple years now. If you go to RoseGarde@weebly.com you will see my site called "Design Your MTR - Midlife Transition Roadmap." 

My dream was to create a number of self-coaching modules a woman can work through on her own during her various phases of midlife transition. The topic is so huge that I got derailed a number of times. Too many times! 

Recently, I went back and challenged myself to cut it down and get back to the original focus. It's always hard where there is too much material and I try to condense it. Nevertheless, Module 1 is soon to come out in both PDF and Kindle. 

The idea is a reader will draw her own roadmap. That means she will take a journal, sheet of paper, or software program and respond to probing questions. The result will be a collection of discoveries about where she is, what needs to change, where to head, and so on. She will collect Bible verse, quotes, and anything else that inspires her. 

Keep an eye out for it and I hope you will buy a copy for yourself. 

Again, it will be called Design Your  Midlife Transition Roadmap  Module 1.