Sunday, October 27, 2019

Life Transformation

A friend of mine once told me doing housework is therapeutic. I don't know what it meant to her, but I know doing so becomes an activity that makes me look inward. I do tend to deal with a lot of stuff while cleaning my home. 

When equipped with the "just do it" attitude and not a "begrudging" attitude, the thoughts can flow. I can challenge my thinking. I get ideas. I feel useful.

I knew with fall's arrival I'd need a new project. Cleaning the garage hadn't made it onto my list of chores over the summer, so the idea of getting to the excess clutter in the garage is what compelled me to sign up for a decluttering course. 

I had a need to go through some of my Mother-in-law's items stored there, I had a need for a set of new goals for fall, but also I wanted my thinking challenged regarding my home's possessions as my husband and I are in the empty nest again. 

Going through the process of uncluttering is challenging. My thinking has been challenged on many fronts. I know what I want to accomplish during this course practically, but for the rest of my life, that's still a bit of an unknown. 

Letting Go

The entire idea of letting go, though, is timely as I am letting go of my adult children more and more.  And with no inlaws left on my husband's side, my own mom being elderly, my and my spouse's siblings having their own families to look after, and my own children developing their own lives, I've been put in a position to let go of traditions and other expectations.

We may make new traditions, but I doubt it. I think my mindset is to live in the now--making the most of every opportunity, being present, enjoying the beauty in daily activities.

My dog of 14 years also passed away. I've been freed of her loving and loyal attachment that was far beyond necessary. She wore herself out following me around. I was her joy and she mine. She can rest now and play in heaven, and I now feel peace and freedom to start fresh in new areas. 

What do I want to become? Healthy, happy, loving, inspiring, available.

How will I do that? Well, that's for my personal journal. 

How about you, re-read the meme at the top of the page as often as you need to. Develop your own set of answers.

Friday, October 18, 2019

A New Goal I Have for Fall

We all thrive on goals. I've signed up for Joshua Becker's "Uncluttered" course to complete over the next 11 weeks. I'm so glad I did. Not only am I going to declutter my home, I'm learning as I go.

I did spring cleaning earlier this summer and realized it was time to update many areas of my home. I also need to dispense some items we gathered from my mother-in-law's home in 2018 after she passed away.

My husband and I are in the empty nest (though my son may return), so it's time for a new season. 

Being Teachable 

I'm learning from others in the course. The first week has been a lot of prep--mostly mentally. 

The women are sharing authentically. I'm learning I'm not alone in some of my thinking. I'm learning some have a bigger problem with clutter than I. Clutter and how we feel about it is as much an emotional issue as it is a possession issue. 

Managing Life's Junk

Possessions become things we have to manage. It's part of life. Shoes get in the way and we trip over them. Other things break or wear out and we have to figure out how best to dispose of them. In the meantime, we are tempted to leave them in a corner. 

Some in the group are grieving the loss of a spouse, a sister, a friend, or a pet. Depression has caused some to become unmotivated. Some are depressed because of their clutter. Some work so much their energy is spread too thin. Some have health issues and can't seem to find the energy to take care of things. Since women mostly manage the homes, it is mostly women in the group. 

So much is involved--mentally, spiritually, and physically. Some has to do with family members' habits and a lot has to do with our own habits. 

Once we de-clutter, most of us will need to learn habit change. 

Great Mottos

I'm gathering profound resolutions from other women. I've posted a couple above and here: 

All in all, I am being transformed. I find myself using my spiritual gift of encouragement with others in our private Uncluttered Course Facebook Group. I'm trying to remain humble. As I purge my mother-in-law's items, I feel I'm honoring her. There is something spiritual about it. We are to be good stewards of what God has given us. I am also praying for wisdom of what to do with each item I need to dispense with.  

A Pattern Revealed

Today on my Facebook memory wall were posts from previous years that had to do with organization. Maybe it's the time of year--like squirrels making a nest--I'm clearing my nest. 

But the memory posts revealed something else. They revealed I have a passion for this kind of thing--decluttering and organizing. I really hope I can use this passion to help others in the days ahead.

Do you have new goals for yourself? 

Saturday, October 12, 2019

Challenge Yourself with This Simple Exercise

This is the remnants of the first blog I wrote after coaching certification. I have many blogs now and a new one for the older Christian woman. Please have a look if interested. 

I learned years ago one approach to getting out of a funk is to change life up. It can be as simple as driving a new way to work, eating lunch somewhere different, trying a new toothpaste, and so on. 

Last week, I had time to explore. I went to a large store and challenged myself to wander the aisles I don't usually wander. I prayed first because impulse shopping has gotten me into trouble more than once. I didn't want to buy something for the sake of buying it. 

So I wandered into the sports aisle, the camping aisle, and a few others. I got to see what new gizmos are being sold. I think the funniest thing I spotted was this tree trunk cushion. I suppose if you're a camper and find sitting on a tree trunk hard, you might want this. ??

This gives me something for conversation. I'm more enlightened now. And, if someone talks about some other object I may have come across, I'm all the wiser. 

Why not do this yourself? Consider it an assignment to walk through a new store or a new section of a store you're familiar with. Your plan is not to find something to purchase, just to educate yourself and grow in your thinking. Then identify the most unusual thing you spotted. Leave a comment below. 

Saturday, October 05, 2019

My Journey as an At-Home Mom into the Life Coaching World

I was an at-home mom and homemaker for many years. You might say, I'm still home. It's been God's calling for me. 

Over time, I applied for jobs and took on temporary gigs but always ended back on the home front. 

It took a lot for me to find my way in life as there'd been a long war within my soul about a craving something meaningful to do outside the home. 

I'd worked before having children so new the perks a job might offer. I'd made a promise to myself I would one day return to work. But with raising children, the idea of working paled. I couldn't find the right thing that convinced me to give up the perfect life I already had for a paid job. 

We got a dog who filled my time a little more as I tried to unravel God's next calling on my life aside from my home and family.

I was never one for turning on the TV during the day, but one day did and uncovered the TV show called Starting Over

For the first time, I learned about the career of life coaching. Soon enough, the show had me hooked. I loved seeing the featured women go through exercises and transform their lives. I recall thinking, if these women could invite God into the transformation, the process would be so much more powerful. 

I guess God had me in an incubator at that time because a new path was soon revealed.  

While grocery shopping (of all places to find a book), I spotted and purchased Katie Brazelton's book Pathway to Purpose for WomenNext, I saw Brazelton was going to be a chat guest on a Christian online forum, so set aside the time.

I attended and participated in the chat, and before the day ended, Brazelton had called me in Canada (from California) to introduce me to something spectacular--A CHRISTIAN-FOCUSED LIFE COACHING COURSE.

Leaping Lizards!!! God had revealed my next calling in a BIG WAY. I was more than excited. 

The way this all came together, I knew God was working and wanted me to take the course! 

I tried to share this phenomenal chain of events with other women at my church, but they didn't get it. I felt unsupported up in Winnipeg, Canada where no one had even heard about life coaching. (circa 2005).

When God speaks to you, it is often 
ONLY YOU He shares the vision with.

While taking the course, I was required to be coached myself. I looked forward to it because I'd been spinning my wheels for far too long. I needed to share my life path with a trusted woman.

I scanned the biographies of available coaches. I didn't want someone with a PhD. I didn't want a career woman. I didn't want someone who might be condescending finding out I was an at-home mom for so many years. 

(Yes, sadly, there are condescending coaches. Some were my instructors and I won't share here what they said to me, but it was off-putting. How dare they insult the calling God had put on my life!)

I chose Kris, of Idaho. I chose her because of the emphasis her bio had on caring for her family. I needed a coach who would understand my calling of supporting my family.  

I set up my kitchen table with a candle, note pads, and kept my eye on the clock, and with nervous excitement, made my call to Kris. She and I worked through the 10 chapters of Conversations on Purpose for Women .

I passed the course and became a certified life coach. As I reflect on that journey, I am aware there are likely women who would like a coach who understands family dynamics and caters to the woman who chose to be an at-home mom. 

I have carved out some other avenues of work beyond homemaking now as a writer and author and I undertook a few other odd jobs, but I am still very much an at-home mom, homemaker advocate. 

I'm willing to repond to emails about the possibility of coaching or just simply offering what guidance I can to my readers. Please feel free to contact me here.  

My Style as a Life Coach

I had an incident recently where someone told me she didn't see me as a coach. I was a little insulted, but then I realized it didn't matter how she saw me. Her opinion doesn't validate my coaching ability. She's never worked with me on that level. 

God gifts each of us differently. My approach to living is vastly different from that woman's. That she doesn't see me as a coach doesn't mean I've not been trained, certified, and effective. 

Old photo of daughter and her cousin

My coaching has to do with motherhood, raising a family, trying to find unique life purpose, taking steps, seeking God, identifying passions and, more or less, being a safe person to talk to. 

My skill is to hear beneath a woman’s words. I’m a woman of faith and vision and my spiritual gifts are encouragement and discernment.

I want my clients to feel supported and care so much I sometimes worry they won't find what they are looking for. 

But I trust the results to God. My coaching is Christian-focused with a strong reliance on asking what God wants and looking at his timing.

I know other coaches in person and virtually.who are more consultants than coaches. Others are business growth coaches, health and fitness coaches. 

Lately, I life coach through written tools. The tools tell stories and ask a lot of questions. I've led groups, and have coached many women one-on-one by telephone. I love email coaching too. I'm always pondering new avenues. 

If you choose a coach, choose someone who matches your personality or goals. 

If you want to investigate coaching with me, inquire here

Tuesday, October 01, 2019

New Book for New Moms

I've been working on a new for new Christian moms for what seems like forever. While a larger book has had multiple edits, I decided a shorter Kindle book on the idea of becoming an at-home mom might be a better book to launch. 

About to be released in the next 72 hours is this book

This book is for the new mom who is about to return to work and wants reassurance, the mom who is unsure if she wants to return to work after her maternity leave, or the mom of a tot who is working but pondering leaving her career. 

Have a look and see if it will help you in your decision-making process.