My daughter just got married. Through the process, I constantly battled my will against hers. Had I not been a Christian who has Jesus as a model, I might have flown off the handle, so to speak.
Often, in the process, my husband and I got the message that our input wasn't wanted. We had to take a back seat and let them do their own planning. Though we saw flaws with their plans or thought of other options, we had to hold back.
Even at the wedding event itself, I had to hold back my expectations and desires and take a proverbial back seat to the events. I told my husband I felt like we were just the breadcrumbs, following the whims of the sandwich-eating wedding party.
Jesus is our Model
Throughout the process, I was reminded of Jesus as my model. He didn't come to be served but to serve. He urges us to serve others, and consider their interests above our own as spelled out in Phil. 2:3.
Adopting this attitude isn't always easy to a mom who has been in control for many years over her children. Now as the children are adults, I have to put my own ambitions in check. The bible teaches us to put conceit, strife, self-justification and self-defense into check. I've had to do that often. I'm glad I know my bible well enough to know I'm not losing out when I take on this attitude. I know in so doing, I'm doing the right thing.
It went through my mind often on the wedding day that Jesus urges us to be humble and told his disciples the last shall be first as sacrifice leads to heavenly reward. I was reminded of Jesus washing his disciples feet. I dismissed arrogant thoughts as often as I could.
I won't say I did this perfectly. I vented a lot to my husband and to a few friends. I'm not proud of my venting, but I felt it necessary at times so that I could regain perspective. In most cases, God gave me the strength to choose a different reaction that is not in my nature.
Isaiah 43:1-2 Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.