Tuesday, June 13, 2017

A Fresh Look at Life

We are fixers and solution-searchers. Even the best of us don't like the patient wait God often requires of us. We want answers and to move forward. We long to hear that one answer we are sure is for us. Can you relate?

In thinking this over, I looked up an old post I'd put back into draft. It offered this advice:

a)  Understand my normal is not your normal.  Your normal is different from another person's.  Remember, God likes variety.  You don't need to act like someone you're not. You don't need to be like the extrovert you know in person or online. You don't need to run a marathon just because Pam did. You don't need to take fast action when it works better for you to be slow and methodical. You don't need to be a morning bird just because Jane is. Know yourself and be yourself. Be okay with who you are.  

b) Accept advice. When someone offers input or advice, thank them. Investigate it. Don't become defensive and put up walls. Don't react like they've stepped over your boundary. God speaks to us all. He may speak to you through someone else. Don't slam the door on their advice. Ponder what is shared. God's word says in Proverbs 19:20-29 "Listen to advice and accept correction, and in the end you will be wise." If someone took the time to think about you, that's pretty special. 

c) Understand her normal isn't your normal. Accept others for how they are and the choices they've made. Don't feel you need to change others to be like you. Accept her quirks. We all make mistakes. We're all a work in progress. Appreciate those God brings into your life either in person or online. Don't be narcissistic. That means, quit making life all about you. Look at the good in others. Be a cheerleader. Ask others how they're doing. Be interested in their projects. Offer them advice if you feel God giving you some. Don't project your issues on another person.  

d)  Know that there is no perfect love relationship. All relationships take work. Work on your relationship upkeep the same way you work on your house upkeep. Keep refreshing and renewing it. Get over whatever bothers you. Keep your goal in front of you--your vision for how you want your relationships to be. Remember, you're on the same team. Help each other. Love each other with kind actions.

e)  Realize that some things can be fixed or improved, but it is far better to learn to live with what you have and to enjoy it. Ask yourself, "Have I arrived?" "Am I on the greener grass I dreamt about?" If so, enjoy it. Dive into your now. Look around and complete the tasks right in front of you--the filing, the dusting, the phone calls, the ride you need to give someone, the visit, the appointment, the massage, the work you do. Trust God to take you where he wants you and when it seems he's not sending you anywhere, relax, read, grow, and learn. Ask God to rev up your life his way in his time. Wherever you find yourself is part of your calling. Don't worry so much.

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