Resources
For SAHMs
Date posted: Jul 25th
2011
I’m so excited to finally begin releasing self-coaching tools for the
stay-at-home mom.
A LITTLE HISTORY
Years ago, I moved across the country with my husband and preschoolers. Being an at home mom of preschoolers, I’d already felt isolated and had experienced a profound loss of identity that many women face, added to that, was a brave and daring woman who’d made a big move but added to her sense of isolation.
After moving, the me inside became even more stuffed away. I disappeared even further. I was in a new city where no one spoke my name. No one knew me. No one seemed to care about me. No one was there with open arms just waiting for a relationship with me and my children. It seemed I was to ride out my calling alone.
UP AND DOWN EMOTIONS
We’d made the decisions together, my husband and I. But the adventure was not quite so great for me. I rode an emotional roller coaster. Sometimes my husband went away on business trips, leaving me alone to care for two small children morning and night for a week or two. My energy was drained and I felt completely tied down as though having a ball and chain tied to my ankle. I was alone in a new city, and lost. The old, smart, funny, helpful me had no outlets.
But, I put on a happy face determined to make the best of it and to carve out a beautiful life for my family.
ON A HUNT FOR HELP
One day, I decided to head to a Christian bookstore in search of a book that might help pull me through. I’d already read the great books “What Every Mom Needs” and “After the Boxes are Unpacked”. I was sure the Christian bookstore would have something new for me—perhaps placed there by God, with my name on it. I wanted to hear the words of a seasoned woman who’d been where I was. If being a stay-at-home mom who lived in a far away place was God’s choice for me, I wanted him to give me the help I needed.
I wanted to make sense of what I was feeling. I longed to hear, even if through the pages of a book, that what I was feeling had a strain of normalcy to it. I needed more, but…I couldn’t find more.
DEAD ENDS
I told the store clerk what I was looking for and it seemed she couldn’t relate to what I was asking for. She had no clue as to how much what I searched for could very well serve as my life preserver. But there appeared to be no such book available on the listings. I was disappointed and appalled, for I knew there were many at home moms like me who needed a book like I was looking for. I knew there were many moms who were not homeschoolers (there was material for homeschoolers), and many women who were not career moms (there were books for career moms too). I knew there had to be plenty of women in my shoes for whom nothing was available.
I’m sure there were probably many male or career-woman publishers that couldn`t imagine there would be a market for what I searched for. I know there is a gap in understanding for those professionals who `could` make it happen. Once I submitted material and was told the place I`d sent it only published materials that spoke to both working and at-home moms. That answer in itself made me livid, for the role of the stay-at-home mom is VASTLY different and unique from that of a working mom. They deserve their own book!
BECOMING A WRITER
It was around that time, that I decided I needed to be that author. I needed to write the book I was looking for. I needed to be that seasoned voice, even while in the midst of my own pain.
And so I began to write.
Since then I`ve been successful in selling articles for online content use or in print use. I`ve also received Life Coaching Certification.
All the writing I did back then in the mid-90`s time has remained with me. I have not yet published any of it.
Today marks a new day. I am testing the waters and getting material out there
now, specifically for the stay-at-home mom. This material will soon be available
in a downloadable self-coaching format. It will be sold on www.writersout.com.
A LITTLE HISTORY
Years ago, I moved across the country with my husband and preschoolers. Being an at home mom of preschoolers, I’d already felt isolated and had experienced a profound loss of identity that many women face, added to that, was a brave and daring woman who’d made a big move but added to her sense of isolation.
After moving, the me inside became even more stuffed away. I disappeared even further. I was in a new city where no one spoke my name. No one knew me. No one seemed to care about me. No one was there with open arms just waiting for a relationship with me and my children. It seemed I was to ride out my calling alone.
UP AND DOWN EMOTIONS
We’d made the decisions together, my husband and I. But the adventure was not quite so great for me. I rode an emotional roller coaster. Sometimes my husband went away on business trips, leaving me alone to care for two small children morning and night for a week or two. My energy was drained and I felt completely tied down as though having a ball and chain tied to my ankle. I was alone in a new city, and lost. The old, smart, funny, helpful me had no outlets.
But, I put on a happy face determined to make the best of it and to carve out a beautiful life for my family.
ON A HUNT FOR HELP
One day, I decided to head to a Christian bookstore in search of a book that might help pull me through. I’d already read the great books “What Every Mom Needs” and “After the Boxes are Unpacked”. I was sure the Christian bookstore would have something new for me—perhaps placed there by God, with my name on it. I wanted to hear the words of a seasoned woman who’d been where I was. If being a stay-at-home mom who lived in a far away place was God’s choice for me, I wanted him to give me the help I needed.
I wanted to make sense of what I was feeling. I longed to hear, even if through the pages of a book, that what I was feeling had a strain of normalcy to it. I needed more, but…I couldn’t find more.
DEAD ENDS
I told the store clerk what I was looking for and it seemed she couldn’t relate to what I was asking for. She had no clue as to how much what I searched for could very well serve as my life preserver. But there appeared to be no such book available on the listings. I was disappointed and appalled, for I knew there were many at home moms like me who needed a book like I was looking for. I knew there were many moms who were not homeschoolers (there was material for homeschoolers), and many women who were not career moms (there were books for career moms too). I knew there had to be plenty of women in my shoes for whom nothing was available.
I’m sure there were probably many male or career-woman publishers that couldn`t imagine there would be a market for what I searched for. I know there is a gap in understanding for those professionals who `could` make it happen. Once I submitted material and was told the place I`d sent it only published materials that spoke to both working and at-home moms. That answer in itself made me livid, for the role of the stay-at-home mom is VASTLY different and unique from that of a working mom. They deserve their own book!
BECOMING A WRITER
It was around that time, that I decided I needed to be that author. I needed to write the book I was looking for. I needed to be that seasoned voice, even while in the midst of my own pain.
And so I began to write.
Since then I`ve been successful in selling articles for online content use or in print use. I`ve also received Life Coaching Certification.
All the writing I did back then in the mid-90`s time has remained with me. I have not yet published any of it.
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